Something dope

Check out my new tech toy. It's amazing how good things come not always in super high-end designers, i don't think CK is.  It's classy, comfortable, leather and sports me good in casual, formal and stuff between. (img might be a bit blurry)



O and btw, happy 100th blog post!

Deleting Facebook friends

Why do we delete facebook friends? Does it do really do anything? Is this a mean move? Does deleting someone from your facebook automatically delete them from our life? Sometimes deleting people from facebook can help seal them off your life. I delete for many reasons, reducing clutter, junk and unwanted people. Do you? Why?

Gaga's reason for celibacy

 

In a new interview with Vanity Fair, Lady Gaga says she is trying to avoid sex for a rather off-beat reason. “I have this weird thing that if I sleep with someone they’re going to take my creativity from me through my vagina,” the singer says in the magazine’s September issue.
Okayy Gaga..U tell them and make sure nobody steals your creative juice from your cooch. silly broad

A Gentleman Wonders.... [Black Foolery] They Rape'n Everybody out here

Another Soulja Boy internet one hit wonder.( A guy breaks into a house to rape some lady and her brother goes all out on why people rape nowadays. Check out video for interview and see the real news clip after the jump.

Inception

 

This is one hell of a movie. This is a must see. Kudos to the writers and directors of this plot, was a good one. The movie explores the concept of the subconscious mind, reality, secrets and accessing deep held secrets through dreams. Real mind boggler and not a movie you'll wanna see twice. As a fan of all things psychological this was real interesting. Downside, it's a 3hour plus movie. Rating: 4/5

Word of the day - Insipid

insipid

PRONUNCIATION:

(ins.sip.id)

MEANING:

adj: Lacking flavor or zest; not tasty. Lacking qualities that excite, stimulate, or interest; dull.

Usage

That meal Mel's mum prepared was insipid - left my taste buds sore from tastelessness. 

I find that chick to be a very insipid little fiend. 

Black vs Black - Bitterness amongst African Americans

I wanted to title this racism amongst blacks but after looking at the definition of Racism i decided bitterness was a preferable term. Ever since emancipation, black people seem to find ways (sometimes real coy and creative) to go back to what our leaders fought hard and tirelessly to end - the bitterness and evil that slavery and the vile it brought. Through elitism, African-Americans have found a way to mark distinction or better to speak, distinguish themselves from fellow blacks. The idea that I am better then you because my skin is lighter, i make certain $ more than you and live in special zipcodes has possessed the minds of several blacks down to the youngsters of this generation.  Click to read more.

Apple Martini

Drink of the Day - Apple Martini. I never knew about this till i visited someone and they made this. Delicious. I don't know if i'll love it like i did the first time though. It's damn good anyways in my opinion. Click to see how to make your own Apple Martini.

Can you be 'overqualified' for the job?

It's hard getting a job nowadays. The excuses for rejection are increasing. From you don't seem to be a match to our personnel can't accomodate more to the tech use excuse, businesses are never running out but how about being 'over-qualified'. Is there such a term? Is it possible to be "too good" for a job? 

Taking the first step

Sometimes we want to do certain things, but our standards, morals and principles are in conflict with what we're considering. Sometimes it's the feeling that we deserve better, can do better or need to try harder.  Many times it boils down to...

I'm Revamping Twitter

 

I'm going in with a blast and i'm revamping my twitter, following new and funny peeps and of course still retaining my old follows and followers that keep it real. So,

lol

 FOLLOW MY ASS AND TWEET ME ON TWITTER  - WWW.TWITTER.COM/STUCKUPFRESH (i keep changing my twitter name, I pray I settle on one soon)

Word of the Day - Chicanery

chicanery PRONUNCIATION: (shi-KAY-nuh-ree) MEANING: noun: Deception by trickery or sophistry. ETYMOLOGY: From French chicaner (to quibble). USAGE: She would have seen much political chicanery in our United Kingdom. After eight years of financial chicanery, he concludes, " the Chancellor has produced an Enron for Africa.

Word of the Day

Starting from sometime later this afternoon, the blog will begin to feature something called Word Of the Day (WOD for short) or sometimes with the prefix 'New'. This will contain new words that will help boost your vocabulary. Given that this is a gentleman's blog, it's expected your vocabulary be of Gently caliber. Some of them are words I have stored in my notebook some others will be words i cane across while reading or simply from the internet. Enjoy and keep watch for the words, who knows you could learn a thing or two.

Artists and Alter-Egos

Why do these music artists go for alter-egos? What's the craze and what's in it for them? Well for one I think it's for publicity and to pull one of those stunt crazes and to see just how many suckers go for it.  Some of them are cool and i kinda dig it and some others are just #WTF moments. T.I. for instance and his alter T.I.P. Some others maybe i figure it's just for entertainment; Beyonce is famous for her very well known Sasha Fierce and just about all the teenage even adult women followed suit and baptized themselves Fierce. Mary Fierce, Ashley Fierce etc some even took the whole Sasha Fierce and added to the name. Next thing, Beyonce kills her alter-ego..smh. Click to read more .

Summary of the world

Summary of the World

If we could shrink the Earth's population to a village of precisely 100 people, with all existing human ratios remaining the same, it would look like this:


81 would be from less developed countries with a gross income per capita and year of US$ 3,580, 19 would be from developed countries with a gross income per capita and year of US$ 22,060.

There would be 61 Asians, 12 Europeans, 13 Africans, 9 would be from South America and the Caribbean, and 5 from North America including Canada.

75 would be non-white, while 25 would be white.

60 would mistrust their own government.
No wonder, that the governments mistrust their people.

60 would live within 62 miles of a coastline.

50 would be female, and 50 would be male.

50 would rely in some manner on coastal and marine habitats for food, building sites, transportation, recreation, and waste disposal.

48 would live on less than US $2 a day.

48 would lack access to basic sanitation.

47 would be urban dwellers.
The world's urban areas are expected to surpass rural areas in population around the year 2005

29 would believe in witchcraft.

25 would live in substandard housing or have no home at all.

20 would live on less than US $1 a day.

17 would be under 18 years old.

16 would lack access to safe drinking water.

16 would be unable to read and write.

14 would suffer from malnutrition.

10 would live in least developed countries.

8 would have Internet access from home.

4.5 would be citizens of the United States

1 would be infected with HIV/AIDS.

1 would be near death, and 1 would be near birth.

Only 1 would have a college education.

Half of the entire village's wealth would be in the hands of only 6 people, and most of them would be citizens of the United States.

When one considers our world from such an incredibly compressed perspective, the need for cooperation, tolerance and understanding becomes glaringly apparent.

Thank you to all the readers

 

Thank you my blog readers. You are the inspiration and support that makes me keep trying to make this better. I started blogging for fun but slowly i'm trying to take this to a new and better level .So far I've had visits from all 7 continents and my online presence is slowly increasing. I've had visits from countries I never knew like Bahrain and other countires like Dubai, Tokyo and Cape Verde. Wow. Your constant visits boost my blog's traffic. Bear with me for the blog's clumsy look for now, I'm trying to give my blog the best look and feel to it to make you want to come back, stay, read and share what you read. If you see something you like, leave me a comment, share the link, bookmark the page and do whatever you can and need to do to give me more love, support and assitance. I appreciate it greatly. Keep reading, i hope you enjoy my little writings..if you do see something you'll want to see more of do let me know. To those of you who talk to me in person about the blog too, I appreciate that also.

 Thanks for reading I appreciate the support and will definitely keep posting.  I'll keep posting.

BIG LOVE - Zeus

Reverse Cowgirl - Tpain [Video]

I had high expectations for the video, i was thinking more of sexy females and dance moves but eh Tpain decided the best vid to go with a song about a sex position is beads, flowers, water and weird wtf scenes. I like the song though, enjoy the video after the jump.

2 months no gym smh

I been slacking, no killer 6 pack yet, no ripped arms, tearing chest and lady-weeping V. I gotta hit the gym, thing is half of the time I lax off back on my computer and I have a home gym right in the basement. Smh..Laziness....Help please! My summer's gotta go to good use. Maybe i should fly back to birth city CA and get intimidated by those dudes that hang out 2-4-7 at the beach.

Blog Under Construction

I'm trying to keep my blog up to par to readers as well as myself. ... I'll be working on my blog in and out to try and bring up to par to upscale higher read blogs and to attract the kind of audience intended as well as to provide higher quality info and in turn reach a top-quality status. The tags could be a little messy and some tags won't go with the blogs they should. Posts will come in randomly and may not be filled appropriately. The purpose of this blog might change but the orignal concieved idea was to educate, enlighten, likewise possibly entertain today's modern gentleman...

Janelle Monáe - Tightrope ft. Big Boi [Video]

The video is pretty ill. I like the video, very distinct and different, caught my eye from the first moment i saw it. Janelle's pretty creative and talented; the song is different from what you hear everyday and has an urban feel to it. I also like the dressing the bow ties, suits, loafers and all. Janelle broke out from the same boring regular routine in all of today's songs. No Nicki Minaj wild noise or some Trina ish or Rihanna depression or Gaga craziness. Her expression is pretty dope, the outfits are on point and the song is novel, catchy and has a Bronx-type street acapella swing groove to it. Enjoy the video. 

Reflection Thursdays: Enjoy today's good tidings, yesterday's gone.

Stop looking for yesterdays past glory, happiness and joy. Believe that today and for the days to come more joy awaits you. Think back before your last success, you had no idea it was coming and something else was the "it" of your life. The one big thing you'd done. That's how successes are; they come - intended to fill you with good feelings about yourself and your accomplishment and to fulfill a certain goal you may have had. Once they're done - you get done with them. Fine, there are some achievements that mean more to us than others. Those we hang them on our mental wall of fame. Don't meditate on your past laureates till you can't feel the juice anymore. You've sucked the success nectar, move on and don't stay trying to force / remind yourself of the good feelings your success brought you. I didn't say thrash every good thing that comes your way. Just live, enjoy, and move on. When you keep saving up past successes, happiness, joys and glories you never allow yourself room to gain more happiness. Instead of hanging on to past successes, treat them as memorabilia. Let them remain in your wall of fame to remind you how much of a champ you are. Your success serve to let you remember never to give up or back down. They are a way of saying you did it before and you can always do better. They should be your inspiration not your culmination. Your life is a continuous cycle of successes, happiness and joy. Never cut yourself short by latching on to how good something/someone was. It was good, nice. But there will be more good things in your life. Today, start learning how to permit yourself to not enslave yourself to your successes. They are supposed to be joyful and bring happiness and not cause you to remain stagnant in your growth. Think of your life as a pre-destined success and enjoy the good things come your way.

Ciara - Ride [Video]

The song is sexy, the video not as hot as it should have been, or so i think. Her body is still sexy #asusual and her moves were sexy. I like the clothes she wore even though they were cheap and old ass lookin, they showed her body and allowed her ooze her oo so ever sexual appeal. Made me think how possible it was she was/is a hemaphordite...ha maybe that's why she wore some tight ass gown/whatever that shit was to show HEY I DON'T HAVE A DICK...LOL. I beleived u all along CiCi.  She's all alone in the video though, I don't know if it's the recession and no cash for backups or just part of the whole video concept, who knows? Ci is undeniably sexy, the song is definitely clockable and bedroom certified. Enjoy. 

Using your rights - Daily Inspiration.

Today, you stop taking shit. From you or anyone else. Today you have the permission to say no when you do not like something or are dissatisfied with a situation.You have every right to be dissatisfied. You are permitted to not be ok with something or someone. You have every right to feel like you are not treated the way you ought to. You deserve the best. Today you begin to speak up when you feel you are not served right.
It's a given right. Express your dissatisfaction, it's a due entitlement.

A Gentleman pens?!... Let's play the slut game

Who’s a slut? Most girls are confused or look surprised when they’re told they are sluts. I don't know why the pretense but read on for slut guidelines.

The rules 

   1.       If you sleep with your crew                - you’re a slut – big time.

   2.       If you lead a guy on then bang some dude by the side  - you’re a slut.

   3.       If you plain ol sleep around                                 - you’re a slut.

   4.       If when  all you talk about Is sex and how you’re good in bed  - you’re a slut

   5.       If a friend says you’re a slut  -                                                             60% you might be a slut.

   6.       If friends have pics of you on their cell phone –                                     you’re a slut (first class)

   7.       If every dude has your number (i mean "EVERY")             -                   you’re a world class slut

   8.       If you act like a slut, talk like a slut and *look* like a slut,                   - you’re a slut

   9.       If you try to defend your slutty ways by saying guys are sluts               - you’re a big slut
   10.   If you passed more than two of the above - then you are a slut.  

  

  11. If your vagina is responsible for more than 5% of dudes at the health clinic - you're a slut
   12. If guys are always around you only bcus u put out  - ditto

    13. If your clit is a death zone for dicks - ditto
 

Bonus: If it even occurs to you to ask yourself if you're a slut - You are. 

Don't let fear rule you

Dont' feed your fears. Just because you feel afraid of something doesn't mean you are slave to it or will become a prey or become your fear. It's natural to feel fear, it's an emotion and sometimes instinctive in humans allowing it rule you is another story. The point is to figure out what we feel fear to/for and correct our perception of what is actually dangerous to us than what we feel/think based on, most often one-time experiences or what society, family has taught us.
When you feel fear, find out where it's coming from and why. Defy your fear and prove to yourself that it means nothing by opting to do exactly what your fear shakes you for.  When you feel fear it's a response based on your judgement and perception of danger. That is, what danger means to you personally. Don't compare yourself, because what you might perceive as dangerous to you, or your wellbeing (mental, social, emotional etc) may not be for the other. Do not surpress your fear, you only make it gain the upper hand. Allow yourself to feel fear, sometimes it makes you stronger to face whatever it is causing the fear. Remind yourself fear is an emotion with options for action. You decide how the ball rolls, to give in to the fear and live your life in terror of something that 99.9% probably has no effect on you or to courageously face what is tormenting you. Shit, you have the right to remain happy and if anything comes between you and your given right it's to the death. When you let yourself know you will not let anything come between you and your happiness, you'll find yourself living more bravely and courageously. You pick and choose which way from here.  Remember, a man isn't courageous because he feels no fear, he is courageous because he has decided to not live by fear.

Daily Feed -· You have the power to change your destiny

Your life ball is in your court. You have the power to say enough is enough. You don’t need the permission of anyone to decide the goals you want for yourself. Today is the day you wake up and take a stance for what you believe in. Set goals for yourself and start today to work towards them. You can be all you want if you simply accept and grant yourself the permission to be. All you need is around you. Allow yourself to bask in the abundance of all you have and soak yourself in the strength that comes from focusing on your goals. 

Keep the summer cool and light.

Layer down: Layers are for winter. Stay cool with light tee-shirts, keep dress shirts for only when necessary and keep the $300 jacket in the closet till winter. Don't look like a fool either, keep the tanks for the beach, cookouts and quick get outs.

Colors: Darker colors are for the winter and colder times, during the summer liven up your style with fresh and exciting colors. This is not an excuse to look like a color book, so keep the colors minimal. Remember when wearing colors that "matching" is not key, "pairing" is. Wear colors to complement your outfit and slightly contrast to your skin tone. Lighter colored men can wear colors like baby blue, red, fresh green etc while darker men can wear blue, maroon, brown etc.

Keep it simple: You are not in a rap video, drop the over sized accessories for women and keep it simple with no more than 3 [max] accessories at a time. You know your closet is full of bling, that's good for you now don't wear them all at once. Accessories like the aviators, a simple neck chain and silver/stainless steel bracelets work well.

Be reasonable: Don't wear boots, baggy jeans, scarfs, or hoodies. Unless you have a bad case of hypothermia, wear the right seasonal clothes.

Lighten your scent: Girls like men to smell classy, stylish, confident and light. Lay off bathing in colognes and stick to two to three whiffs per wear. Don't be afraid to mix scents up to come up with your own signature scent. Remember, all colognes don't smell the same on everyone, make sure you test the colognes before buying them. Test for the first note (the original smell with the alcohol), the middle note (5-10 mins later) and the last note (1hr later). The last note is what it will smell like on you. Summer would call for Eau de Parfumes, so keep colognes off the mark for now. For playful scents I recommend Calvin Klein Eternity or Acqua di Gio, for the club scents I recommend Play by Givenchy or Diesel Fuel for life by Diesel.

Stay off comfort zones: You a sneaker head, your bad habits are getting to you. This summer stay lighter with flip flops, wear shorts, and get new habits. Switch up your routine and quit boring yourself out.

You don't have to spend a ton of wad staying light for summer, shop at department stores like Macy's, Marshalls and even some good thrift stores. Stores like H&M, Express, Urbanoutfitters, DTLR and SprtZone sell quality stuff for good prices. All in all, there's money to look good, chase women and buy drinks. Stay a gentleman and knuckles to the summer ahead!



 Add some spruce to your closet and get these fun socks. $8, available at Urban Outfitters nationwide.

A Gentleman Thinks....Money

CREDIT

Ways to Build Credit

It is actually pretty easy to build credit. Try one of the following ideas:

·       Ask your bank or credit union about a secured credit card. You can make a deposit to your account and have a credit limit in the amount of your deposit. The bank takes little risk and you build credit slowly.

·       Use a co-signer on your first few credit accounts. Lenders will consider the co-signer’s existing credit. The co-signer essentially ‘vouches’ for you while you build credit. Note that this is a big responsibility – you can cause major headaches for the co-signer if you don’t pay as agreed

·       Use retailer programs for modestly large purchases like furniture. For example, you may buy a television on the “$40/Month Payment Plan”. Gas station cards may work as well. These programs can be easier to qualify for and they certainly help you build credit. Be sure that the retailer will report your loan to the major credit reporting companies.

·       Get a credit card with any reputable institution that will give you one. Again, you have to make sure they’ll report your timely payments to the credit reporting companies. 

Major Credit Bureaus

·       Equifax

·       TransUnion

·       Experian

Courtesy:  Justin Pritchard About.com Guide. 

Learning the art of flirting

 Start by realizing that every person is a flirtatious being and flirting is something we (even animals) do innately whenever we are interested in another person.This said, half the "problem" is solved. Then begin to work on learning how to convey your feelings in the manner you wish - boldly, funny, goofy, or a combo of everything.
Flirting should be something with your insignia - your swag. It shouldn't rid you of sleep, peace of mind etc, then it's no longer flirting - flirting should be fun, sexy and rewarding for you.

 Remember flirting is about two human beings expressing their interest in one another, allow for chemistry - physical or whatsoever.

There is no way for the other person to pick up your interest if you are not expressing it. Flirting is not in your mind, it's external. Show your interest by using body language. Smile, wink or make gestures. Don't force it. This is not a quiz and no one's judging. I personally prefer physical connection but be mindful of people's spaces and principles. Not everyone appreciates your hand, breath, tongue on them the first time. Some prefer just verbal flirting. Respect people's principles but never sacrifice your style. Flirt in your own way, afterall you're trying to win the person over for you.

Reflection Thursdays: Building your reality through your imagination and vision

One way to "build" your reality is to IMAGINE  it vividly. Einstein said that "Imagination is more important than knowledge" some marketing guy named Roy Williams says that our minds are  far better suited to imagination than reality ANYWAY.

If you could have your life be any way you  want, how would that be?  What would happen in your reality?

We as humans can live almost any life we want if only we decide what that life is going to be, and put our full attention on making that our reality. Use your IMAGINATION to create a reality that you WANT to live in, and then start living there. No one is going to call you up and say "Hey, I am granting you permission to live the life you want... so get to it."    You're going to have to CREATE the reality that you want to live in... and then start living there.

My facebook Fav quotations.

Winners have simply formed the habit of doing things losers don't like to do.

Become a Man of Value rather than a man of success.

Stay financially responsible.

"Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they've been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It's an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It's a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary... Impossible is nothing."

"Be who you are and live  because those who mind don't matter and those who matter dont mind!"

I'm born an original, NEVER dying a copy.

I believe—
        that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
        that everyone, has a right to their opinions BUT that doesn't change the fact of Who I am.
        that the Best way to Live life is to LIVE it like an experience and NOT as a competition.
        that I am more established than most, but that gives me NO RIGHT to be arrogant.
       that friendship and warmth are essential, i neva kno tomorrow.
       that it is NO USE to eat myself over things i have no control; I have control over how i react to things n NOT wat happens to me and THAT i will pay attention to.
  
      that MOST IMPORTANTLY, it is essential that i live for MYSELF and kip it ril 110% regardless. That way i kno i am being the BEST i can b.

Finalists of Naija's Elite Model Look 2010

My Paper on Langston Hughes

Langston Hughes contributed a tremendous influence on black culture throughout the United States during the era known as the Harlem Renaissance. The movie shows that he was and is considered to be one of the most prolific and most-recognized black poets of the Harlem Renaissance. Hughes was presented with a great opportunity with the rise black art during the 1920's and by his creative style of poetry, which used black culture as its basis and still appealed to all ethnicities. However, Langston Hughes was born into a well to do black family; of course, another Booker T Washington. He was sent to Columbia and was familiar with the white folk along with the benefits of a proper education and harnessing of his potential and abilities. Was this because he was from a line of light skinned folk? I wonder. Why was he not from the ghetto and picked cotton and tilled the farms with his hands till they bled and, then, write poems? This shows me the suppression and supremacy the whites still inevitably held over the blacks; picking and selecting whom was going to be who, where and when.  For Langson to have gained such popularity he had to have kissed the arses of so many white folk; however 'innocent' and much of a 'non sell-out' he claims to be or have been. I think of his work as hypocrisy; like what many of the young black folk nowadays do. They sing and rap of a neighborhood they have never known and will never know, claim to know the hardships and trials those who do reside in this hard neighborhoods go through and fill their lyrics with a bunch of media infested stereotypes and paint their videos with sheer ignorance for the world (Black AND White) to see, and of course in a latter effect - believe. Langston writes of black suffering and pain which of course he must have learned from the books, tales and by going to bourgeoise theaters to see the plays. Nevertheless black folk of the time (and still today) could not see past his facade and once he threw money here and there, was applauded for such an 'audacious' effort and 'inspiration' to the younger black generation. Let the young black children know ALSO where, when and how Langston made his fame, power and fortune. I was so disgusted to hear of Langston's version of discrimination towards him. While in grammar school  in Lincoln, Illinois, Hughes was elected class poet. Hughes stated in retrospect he thought it was because of the stereotype (I wonder what he knew of these) that African Americans have rhythm. "I was a victim of a stereotype. There were only two of us Negro kids in the whole class and our English teacher was always stressing the importance of rhythm in poetry. Well, everyone knows — except us — that all Negroes have rhythm, so they elected me as class poet". Perhaps this was one of the 'many' trials and tribulations Langston faced as a Black man in a primarily racist society. 

I appreciate the fact that Langston craved for the truth. He wanted more than the bed of roses his father provided him and wanted to know first-hand what his people (as he called the Blacks) were suffering. I appreciate that, now THAT is a bold movement. And of course, his 'elegant' father refused such 'mediocre thinking'. Possibly because a conglomeration of Langston's people would shade the light off the sky and cause an assembly of unbearably dark heathens, contrary to the immaculate light skin the white man's seed had fortunately doused on his genealogy of dark skin? I wonder.  I appreciate his quest to be 'black' by every means. Leaving Columbia for Lincoln (a historically black college), joining Omega Psi Phi fraternity Inc. (a Black Greek letter organisation), moving to Harlem (a primarily black neighborhood), 'appreciating' jazz (a black man's music), directing 'black plays' etc. I applaud those efforts, and who knows maybe the black folk of the time saw all this and decided to adopt him as a black man. Shall we undermine Langston's sexuality? Of course not, that would be an incomplete 'biography'. Still, the movie skipped Langston's sexuality. 'Maybe' just maybe his sexuality was not important to the history of his work. Of course not, it was not. We shall sit and play closed-eyes at short stories such as "Blessed Assurance" was about a father's anger over his son's sexuality. There were also several poems discovered that Hughes never had published related to his love for black men. Wait a minute, could Langston's father have been trying to protect him from the harsh criticisms of fellow blacks once they find out about his effeminity, thus wanting to send him to a primarily white school (altoghether wanting to send him abroad)? I wonder. But of course, we will have questions such as how do you know that he was talking about himself?he usally based his peoms on other people that he had meet. Or In "Same in Blues," where Hughes again expresses gender dialogue in the Black community, focusing on the frustration a man feels at not being able to fulfill the male-ascribed role of provider, because of racial and economic conditions: maybe to retain the respect and support of black churches and organizations and avoid exacerbating his precarious financial situation, Hughes remained closeted. Bravo to the most 'respected' man for not being so bold after all. Regardless, the black folk still needed brillaint minds like Hughes to argue their rights in higher places. Take for instance tin 1926, in the Nation, he provided the movement with a manifesto when he skillfully argued the need for both race pride and artistic independence in his most memorable essay, “The Negro Artist and the Racial Mountain.”  Who else would know such 'mighty deeds' than a man who has for himself witnessed The Ways of White Folks (a book by Langston Hughes, 1934)? I rest my case and in general applaud Langston Hughes for being courageous enough to take a stance for his people. 

U.S Census Bureau Report on Black Families - Blacks are less likely to be married than non-Hispanic Whites.

Among the 26.2 million Blacks and the 158.3 million non-Hispanic whites 15 and older surveyed, 10 percent of each were divorced and about 6 percent of each were widowed. 43 percent of Blacks had never married, compared with 25 percent of non-Hispanic Whites. Blacks were less likely than their non-Hispanic White counterparts to be currently married (35 percent and 57 percent, respectively). The marital distributions of Blacks and non-Hispanic Whites varied by sex. In 2002, in both groups, women were more likely than men to be widowed, separated, or divorced, and less likely to be never married or currently married. Black men were more likely than their non-Hispanic White counterparts to be never married: 45 percent and 28 percent, respectively. The comparable figures for women were 42 percent and 21 percent.

Is this a trend for the Af/ame community?

I swear this internet is UNproductive - it's KILLING

I sit down at the computer, and I swear I'll be productive. Next thing I know it's 12 hours later. I've been on this damn computer since 11pm last night and it's almost dawn. I've checked my email, updated my Facebook status, browsed the trending topics on Twitter, read my RSS feeds, looked up stuff on Wikipedia, read all the new stories online, been on Wikipedia 20times, watch 3million videos, posted 5million comments on 3000 forums, updated my profiles, cyber-stalked all stalk-ables, been on Facebook 500 times even though I swore I won't (just like I said I'll be doing work but here I am BLOGGING!!!).

What I haven't done is WORK.

I've come a long way though, I've stayed off facebook for 3days in a row! (Yay me!!) and I've disabled my Chromed Bird for Twitter and I haven't been there in a minute (couple hours ago). I really should stay off the internet and so, that's what I'll be doing for a while now. I need to get into my school work, catch up with what's going on around me and make some useful contributions by working my brain where it needs to be WORKED. I'm gonna start taking trips to the library and sit WELL AWAY from a computer, I'm gonna stop responding to my Yahoo hit ups and maybe just go offline. I'm gonna try not to see who's on Oovoo or even LOOK at a #TT on twitter. No facebook (I've been good so far) and how 'bout back to the good ol days of reading ink on paper! Music?? I've got a damn radio and a pile of songs -- I can do without hearing what new bullshit is on the radio (Oh let's do it!!) My Tv isn't really a big deal cuz it's either on in front of me and I'm watching Family guy or it's just talking and I'm here - ONLINE. Text messages...oops someone just hit me up on Yahoo..two now...lol. I swear this is gonna be a marathon. Well, as I was saying Text messages, hmm, my phone's been acting up lately so I guess, God's giving me a helping hand there. Thanks a lot Father. My text messages blow up to 100% filled like in 3minutes, anyone who's close to me knows I've blown up my phone with constantly always charging it. The damn thing can't go up to 3minutes (no kidding) without a charger plugged in. What a whore for electricity..lol. I'm gonna try and bet it aint gon be easy.

So, if you catch me strolling aimlessly or wandering socially or trying to start a convo with you or just seeing my status as ONLINE ANYWHERREEE....hit me up to GET BACK TO WORK and I don't mean reading my inbox I MEAN STUDYING so I can get a degree and then a bigger sa-la-ry (Education -- Connection...lol. I tell u that damn commercial is annoying as fuck http://www.educationconnection.com/). You know I wanna be like DuBois or Thurgood Marshall or Douglass or Brooke you know, someone with ambition, determination and a spirit to lead. I guess online won't be my friend in the long run. When you see me, don't be a stranger, pat me on the back (especially if you are a studious one) and encourage me to skip parties and study hard and long, get scholarships, get a notable degree, advance and become a shining star.

  

Till I blog next time (maybe just right after a hot exam),


The Gentleman


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How do you know when what you are doing is right?

How do you know when what you are doing is right? Is it when people around you are happy? When everyone seems to follow you? When everyone 'likes' you? When everyone 'hates' on you? When your 'guts' tell you you're right? When family seems to be in agreement? When everything seems to be going 'right'? When you feel happy? When you feel satisfied? When you feel content? Some higher power? Your accountability to someone/people/group/organization/principle(s)? When you've followed your values and morals? or when you've just done what you've always felt like doing?


How do you judge yourself to know when you are doing the 'right' thing? When is something 'right' for you?
Unlocking this answer will show you:
1. How you think of yourself
2. How important you think of yourself
3. The basis you judge yourself
             AND
4. What is/are really important to you - your underlying beliefs, principles and values.

So, take a seat, give yourself some room and ask yourself:
                         "How do you know when what you are doing is right?"

Our greatest fear.

Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate,
but that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us.
We ask ourselves,
Who am I to be brilliant,gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It is not just in some, it is in everyone.

And, as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

Fear of the unknown is our greatest fear. Many of us would enter a tiger's lair before we would enter a dark cave. While caution is a useful instinct, we lose many opportunities and much of the adventure of life if we fail to support the curious explorer within us.

Kiss my ass.

Just in case you didn't get it. I'll say it in a couple languagues :

 Spanish - Bese mi asna
 French - Embrassez mon âne
German - kussen sie meinen esel
Italian - Baci il mio asino
Portugese - Beije meu burro

 AND KISS IT BIGG TOO

Dreams, Goals and Motives.

Your dream is what pushes you. It is your driving force. It is what leads you to set goals, ambitions etc. Without your dream, there would be no reason to strive for a goal, there would be no gas to push you and you will not see any reason why you should pursue whatever goal it is you want to achieve. Ever wondered why you start off on a project all hyped and shit and halfway through you wonder - why you started in the first place? It is because you lost your motivation - you have forgotten what it was that drove you madly to follow through your project. In the beginning you would do every and any to get it done, now your attitude is indifference.

The solution - from my life experiences I've learnt that my dream is THE MOST important element. Yes, most people write you off and tell you your dreams are imaginations, or you could posion your dreams with negativity from people and yourself, however you, in the long run have to  to decide what you want for yourself and keep your dream constantly fresh in  your mind. Think about it - how would it feel when you accomplished that goal, how would you talk, act, and walk. It is yours, see it like none other, feel it, be it.

Till you can feel your dream so close to you - you never will have motivation, courage or confidence to go for it. So after reading this, get the hell up outta bed - write your dreams for various aspects of your life and VOW to keep them fresh as ever.

Ahhh...I'm sleepy

 
So my sleep cycle is basically turned amiss during this short break. I sleep at 7/8am and wake up at 2pm. Then me and my holmes eat "breakfast" at 3pm. Sleep some extra till 4-5ish pm. Play Xbox till 7pm. (Eat "lunch" in-between). Watch a movie, use the internet, shower etc till 8ish 9pm then dip out for the night till 1/2/3 depending on how the night goes. Then back home, so-called diner (or whatever you're calling that)...then i "boo-love" on the phone or whatever there is...Then some horror or thriller movie or some netflix failed attempt at such. Then computer and the cycle continues. I love how I've told myself I'm going to do school work this break (so help me God) and do "all" I'm supposed to do. Watch me heading to bed now and I "want to" head to the library. #letmefindout my sleep cycle has been permanently tempered with. Fuck it! Good night y'all.



The Gentleman (I know it's color free today)