Word of the day - Insipid

insipid

PRONUNCIATION:

(ins.sip.id)

MEANING:

adj: Lacking flavor or zest; not tasty. Lacking qualities that excite, stimulate, or interest; dull.

Usage

That meal Mel's mum prepared was insipid - left my taste buds sore from tastelessness. 

I find that chick to be a very insipid little fiend. 

Taking the first step

Sometimes we want to do certain things, but our standards, morals and principles are in conflict with what we're considering. Sometimes it's the feeling that we deserve better, can do better or need to try harder.  Many times it boils down to...

Word of the Day - Chicanery

chicanery PRONUNCIATION: (shi-KAY-nuh-ree) MEANING: noun: Deception by trickery or sophistry. ETYMOLOGY: From French chicaner (to quibble). USAGE: She would have seen much political chicanery in our United Kingdom. After eight years of financial chicanery, he concludes, " the Chancellor has produced an Enron for Africa.

Using your rights - Daily Inspiration.

Today, you stop taking shit. From you or anyone else. Today you have the permission to say no when you do not like something or are dissatisfied with a situation.You have every right to be dissatisfied. You are permitted to not be ok with something or someone. You have every right to feel like you are not treated the way you ought to. You deserve the best. Today you begin to speak up when you feel you are not served right.
It's a given right. Express your dissatisfaction, it's a due entitlement.

My facebook Fav quotations.

Winners have simply formed the habit of doing things losers don't like to do.

Become a Man of Value rather than a man of success.

Stay financially responsible.

"Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they've been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It's an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It's a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary... Impossible is nothing."

"Be who you are and live  because those who mind don't matter and those who matter dont mind!"

I'm born an original, NEVER dying a copy.

I believe—
        that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
        that everyone, has a right to their opinions BUT that doesn't change the fact of Who I am.
        that the Best way to Live life is to LIVE it like an experience and NOT as a competition.
        that I am more established than most, but that gives me NO RIGHT to be arrogant.
       that friendship and warmth are essential, i neva kno tomorrow.
       that it is NO USE to eat myself over things i have no control; I have control over how i react to things n NOT wat happens to me and THAT i will pay attention to.
  
      that MOST IMPORTANTLY, it is essential that i live for MYSELF and kip it ril 110% regardless. That way i kno i am being the BEST i can b.

How do you know when what you are doing is right?

How do you know when what you are doing is right? Is it when people around you are happy? When everyone seems to follow you? When everyone 'likes' you? When everyone 'hates' on you? When your 'guts' tell you you're right? When family seems to be in agreement? When everything seems to be going 'right'? When you feel happy? When you feel satisfied? When you feel content? Some higher power? Your accountability to someone/people/group/organization/principle(s)? When you've followed your values and morals? or when you've just done what you've always felt like doing?


How do you judge yourself to know when you are doing the 'right' thing? When is something 'right' for you?
Unlocking this answer will show you:
1. How you think of yourself
2. How important you think of yourself
3. The basis you judge yourself
             AND
4. What is/are really important to you - your underlying beliefs, principles and values.

So, take a seat, give yourself some room and ask yourself:
                         "How do you know when what you are doing is right?"

Dreams, Goals and Motives.

Your dream is what pushes you. It is your driving force. It is what leads you to set goals, ambitions etc. Without your dream, there would be no reason to strive for a goal, there would be no gas to push you and you will not see any reason why you should pursue whatever goal it is you want to achieve. Ever wondered why you start off on a project all hyped and shit and halfway through you wonder - why you started in the first place? It is because you lost your motivation - you have forgotten what it was that drove you madly to follow through your project. In the beginning you would do every and any to get it done, now your attitude is indifference.

The solution - from my life experiences I've learnt that my dream is THE MOST important element. Yes, most people write you off and tell you your dreams are imaginations, or you could posion your dreams with negativity from people and yourself, however you, in the long run have to  to decide what you want for yourself and keep your dream constantly fresh in  your mind. Think about it - how would it feel when you accomplished that goal, how would you talk, act, and walk. It is yours, see it like none other, feel it, be it.

Till you can feel your dream so close to you - you never will have motivation, courage or confidence to go for it. So after reading this, get the hell up outta bed - write your dreams for various aspects of your life and VOW to keep them fresh as ever.

10(+1) stuff I've learned.

1.
  I bumped into many “it seems there’s no way to get over this” moments in my life. They’re all in the past now.

2.
 Whatever you say to you into your mind, you will silently say to others around you. Treat yourself nice.

3.
 When you want something, go get it. Don’t fantasize about having it. (FAV!)

4.
  Happiness is a process, not a goal.

5.
 Somebody may hurt you at some point and you may hurt somebody. Pain is part of the game. Suffering is optional.

6.
 Everything you get, you wanted at some point. You only get what you want.

7.
 It’s ok to be loved by other people, even if you don’t love yourself.

8.
 Whenever you feel you can’t do it anymore, you can do it at least twice the time you did it. That’s a fact.

9.
 Believe your intuition. Just don’t let it know that, it will inflate with pride and lose accuracy.

10.
 You don’t need permission to be happy. Nor acceptance or validation. (FAV 2)

10(+1).
  Stop doing stuff. Start living your life. (FAV 3)


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The most important life-skill

One good life skill is to be able to chill out. To be calm in negative situations and not overreact about all kinds of things. Or invent big, big problems in your mind – or create them in your world as you drag other people in through arguments – by making mountains out of molehills. Essentially even religious books speak of remaining calm and never getting anxious. s 

The Gentleman's 10 Tips to life..

  1.     Be a good example. People watch what you do more than they listen to what you say. Be someone worth emulating.

   2.   Care about others. People don’t care about how much you know until they know how much you care. Ask questions. Take a genuine interest In. people.

   3.    Encouragement. Everyone goes through tough times. When you support people and encourage them through these times, you’ll be inspiring them to see the best in themselves & in the situation.

   4.  Be inspired yourself. Look for people, ideas, environments and knowledge that you find inspiring and motivating.

   5.  Share from your own experience. You have more to share than you realize. Mine the rich experiences of your life and share your wisdom from your unique point of view. You may be the only one who can touch someone with your inspiring message.

   6. Be vulnerable. Be willing to share your failures as well as your successes. Others will relate to you. They’ll understand that they’re not the only ones with challenges.

   7.  Tell stories. Facts tell and stories sell. They inspire, too. We learn best from parables and we all need to develop our own inspiring stories.

   8.  Be a good communicator. Increasing your ability to communicate effectively is a critical element for you to inspire others. Watch how you speak and what you say. Invest In. your communication skills.

   9.  Challenge people. Many of us have had teachers who at times seemed more like tormentors than mentors. They challenged us to do our best, and we were better for it. Practice "care-frontation"—the careful and caring confrontation of others.

  10. Read. It may not follow that all readers are leaders, but certainly all leaders are readers. Stay informed. Share what you read with others. Tell people about books that have inspired you. Share the knowledge. 

Read, Learn and Live...

                                                   The Gentleman

I am Worth...

lol..it's so funny how we wait for the Physical to prove to us that we are who we are. We really don't need people to tell us who we are or wat we r made of. The fact that that Girl doesn't smile at u when u walk past doesn't mean she's not krazi over u - u'll b surprised to hear what she thinks of u (even in private *hint*).
The best thing is to look into the Mirror and know who u see, From inside out tell urself of ur worth, ur standards and what u stand for, and whether some foo notices or not - u still the bomb. U don't have to be the bomb for anyone else jus shine for u - jus cuz.
Evaluate yourself - are you better than yesterday according to your standards and what YOU think is important? Yes.Good job, keep doing what you doing. No. Turn the fuck around and get to YOUR goals and vision.

Till you can look in the mirror and see YOU and not someone/some-people's SELF in the mirror, you are not growing far.

Till next time,
Kip Reading....

                                                                  The Gentleman.

I'm Black.

Wow, today was eventful. I'm chilling with a photographer when we get into the well known argument of
" Africans go back to your country". I'm telling the photographer[African] that he needs to go back to his country because he's taking up resources that might have been used to fulfill a "legit" American's needs. *insert my smiley face here* . Of course we are not enemies so fortunately we didn't get to the point of shooting each other or sending fists to faces. We are talking when I invite a fellow [A black american] to join (supposedly I intended for a light bit of entertainment *evil face*) so the Gentleman tells this black fellow about what my African brother had just said. What transpired I consider one of those things you consider Life Bookmarks(yes, you heard that term 1st on The Gentleman - so go on now and use it in your "deep" myspace and facebook statuses). On a serious note, homeboy SHATTERED my "beliefs" and stereotypes. Brotha got me thinking on how we as individuals sum up people just by what they do, appearance etc..earlier in the day my boss was telling me how my "pickyness" about cute girls was gonna be my downfall.. :( oops... and she explained how it is a phase of my life now but I should look for someone I can Reason with, Share my beliefs and values with and communicate with - All good points GRANTED she doesn't have to be a faux-Barbie. This fellow who works in my school went on with Socio-Politico talks, Racism agendas, Quotations from books, Spilling titulars from the times of MLK, Malcolm X to the basis of religion, justifying the laziness of the Black man by the ideology that the government has a hand in letting black people wallow in laxity. I was speechless for most of his "speech" and the conversation was mostly between him and the photographer. It let me see how shallow my thinking can be allowed to go if kept not in check. You would think (society playing the key part) that this fellow working his job and coming from the neighborhood he does would know naught of academia, society, politics and the economic situations/playings of the society. He spoke on EVERY subject the sun granted - religion, Obama, Politics, Racism, Life in the hood (in an objective logical and reasonable manner).

As much as I was astonished and intrigued, I felt a sense of pride. I could also tell he was proud of himself, his intelligence ans significant amount of knowledge. His voice grew in strength as he hopped from one topic to another, I had to stop both of them discussing and ask them WHAT, with all of their knowledge and profound , have they done to effect the plight of the Black Man in society and the fellow spoke of helping his street kids. I was glad for one more black brotha. I felt i could point my fingers and lift my voice and say YES, Black Men are not just what you see, your dope boy could also be THE scholar. I felt enlightened, I felt as though I was guilty - judging a fellow brotha unfairly JUST like everyone had. It showed me how easy it is to write off people because they look a certain way or have a certain history.

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Stay Fresh, Stay Inspired, Stay Fly. Enjoy

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Image Consultation

"Image" is the way other people see us. It influences whether people will agree to our requests, hire us, and pay us the salary we want. 

Your image is Key!

How you feel about yourself significantly affects the way you relate to others, and how others perceive you. Happiness with your image is a big factor in self esteem. Having the right wardrobe and grooming or makeup for any situation, especially interviews and presentations, is of crucial importance to your image. Your image gives you leverage. The first messages you send about yourself to others is in how you appear visually. First impressions of you are drawn from your outward appearance, one of the essential components to your image.

So why am i doing all this talk? Because I've taken time to experience image transition and its importance in people's lives and I'm interested in helping others improve their image. Keep your eyes peeled for more info. I'll be keeping everyone updated! 

Shit..that was near PERFECT!

A strength for SPECIFIC purposes: is a consistent near-perfect performance in an activity. 
For an activity to be a strenght:

• Do it CONSISTENTLY and must be able to derive some INTRINSIC SATISFACTION eg Bill Gates is quite capable of implementing Microsoft's strategy but because he said performing this role drains him of energy, this ability is NOT his strength. 
• ACID TEST: Can i fanthom myself doing it repeatedly, happily and sucessfully? 
• I DO NOT have to have strength in EVERY ASPECT of my role in order to excel. I.e Have all the "qualities" required for the role. All that is needed is - to know hwo to play  n use your cards with what i have. 
• EXCELLENCE NEVER comes by FIXING WEAKNESSES it is only by MAXIMIZING STRENGTHS POINT OF NOTE: It doesn't mean IGNORE WEAKNESSES....manage around weaknesses to free me up to hone my strenghts to a sharper point. Eg if a weakness is impatience with kids, and i work as a School Administrator BUT a strenght of mine is managing educational records etc. I can switch jobs towork in the Ministry of Education, where i can hone my Educational record organizing strenght and not allowing my impatience with kids interfere with my growth. I DID NOT ignore my weaknesses as i WAS VERY WELL AWARE of them AND ACKNOWLEDGED them, THAT IS WHY I MOVED In the 1st place....IGNORING my weakness would be to "play dumb" and just wallow in my job as a  School Administrator and keep trying to "control" myself from being impatient with the kids etc...ALL THE WHILE ignoring my Educational record organizing skill....when i am lagging in my strenght, my supervisors would see my "weakness"  (as I am paying attention to it,and there is the temptation of me to go about whing about how i am impatient with kids etc...looking for the why and how i became such and such....probably attending seminars, lectures on the impatience and trying to "fix" my impatience)....this is time spent and WILL never be regained. I could have focused my time (attended lectures etc ON my Strenght) 
• In English Language: CAPITALIZE ON MY STRENGHTS & MANAGE AROUND MY WEAKNESSES

I am the greatest, I said that even before I knew I was.

I am NOT a victim of circumstance, I am the Master of my fate - a beneficiary of possibility. Difficult conditions do not impose a burden. They deliver opportunity, in great abundance.

No matter what happens or what fails to happen, there is always a kernel of goodness and positive possibility to be found. Decide to see it, decide to harness it, decide to make the most of it, and you will.

Circumstances, as powerful and disruptive as they may be, do not have any driving purpose or intention. You, on the other hand, do.

When you connect with that purpose, and energize that intention, you can bring great triumph out of any situation. With a strong and clearly defined purpose, everything becomes an opportunity.See what is, and translate it into the best of what can be. Any time is right, when you are ready.