Don't let fear rule you

Dont' feed your fears. Just because you feel afraid of something doesn't mean you are slave to it or will become a prey or become your fear. It's natural to feel fear, it's an emotion and sometimes instinctive in humans allowing it rule you is another story. The point is to figure out what we feel fear to/for and correct our perception of what is actually dangerous to us than what we feel/think based on, most often one-time experiences or what society, family has taught us.
When you feel fear, find out where it's coming from and why. Defy your fear and prove to yourself that it means nothing by opting to do exactly what your fear shakes you for.  When you feel fear it's a response based on your judgement and perception of danger. That is, what danger means to you personally. Don't compare yourself, because what you might perceive as dangerous to you, or your wellbeing (mental, social, emotional etc) may not be for the other. Do not surpress your fear, you only make it gain the upper hand. Allow yourself to feel fear, sometimes it makes you stronger to face whatever it is causing the fear. Remind yourself fear is an emotion with options for action. You decide how the ball rolls, to give in to the fear and live your life in terror of something that 99.9% probably has no effect on you or to courageously face what is tormenting you. Shit, you have the right to remain happy and if anything comes between you and your given right it's to the death. When you let yourself know you will not let anything come between you and your happiness, you'll find yourself living more bravely and courageously. You pick and choose which way from here.  Remember, a man isn't courageous because he feels no fear, he is courageous because he has decided to not live by fear.

Kiss my ass.

Just in case you didn't get it. I'll say it in a couple languagues :

 Spanish - Bese mi asna
 French - Embrassez mon âne
German - kussen sie meinen esel
Italian - Baci il mio asino
Portugese - Beije meu burro

 AND KISS IT BIGG TOO

10(+1) stuff I've learned.

1.
  I bumped into many “it seems there’s no way to get over this” moments in my life. They’re all in the past now.

2.
 Whatever you say to you into your mind, you will silently say to others around you. Treat yourself nice.

3.
 When you want something, go get it. Don’t fantasize about having it. (FAV!)

4.
  Happiness is a process, not a goal.

5.
 Somebody may hurt you at some point and you may hurt somebody. Pain is part of the game. Suffering is optional.

6.
 Everything you get, you wanted at some point. You only get what you want.

7.
 It’s ok to be loved by other people, even if you don’t love yourself.

8.
 Whenever you feel you can’t do it anymore, you can do it at least twice the time you did it. That’s a fact.

9.
 Believe your intuition. Just don’t let it know that, it will inflate with pride and lose accuracy.

10.
 You don’t need permission to be happy. Nor acceptance or validation. (FAV 2)

10(+1).
  Stop doing stuff. Start living your life. (FAV 3)


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Atychiphobia - Fear Of Failure

Fear of failure can hold you back. But failure isn’t all that bad really. It can be very helpful if you choose to see it that way.
The thing is to reframe failure from being something that makes your legs shake to something useful and important for the growth of your self confidence and your overall growth as a human being.

Here are four ways that failure can help you out:

• You learn. Instead of seeing failure as something horrible you can start to view it more as a learning experience. When standing in the middle of a failure, you can ask yourself questions like: What’s awesome about this situation? What can I learn from this situation?
• You gain experiences you could not get any other way. Ideally, you probably want to learn from other people’s mistakes and failures. That’s not always easy to do though. Sometimes you just have to fail on your own to learn a lesson and to gain an experience no one can relate to you in mere words.
• You become stronger. Every time you fail you become more accustomed to it. You realize more and more that it’s not the end of the world. And, again, you get desensitized. You can handle things that would have been very hard to handle a few years back.
• Your chances of succeeding increases. Every time you fail you can learn and increase your inner strength. So over time you become more and more likely to succeed.

The Gentleman's 10 Tips to life..

  1.     Be a good example. People watch what you do more than they listen to what you say. Be someone worth emulating.

   2.   Care about others. People don’t care about how much you know until they know how much you care. Ask questions. Take a genuine interest In. people.

   3.    Encouragement. Everyone goes through tough times. When you support people and encourage them through these times, you’ll be inspiring them to see the best in themselves & in the situation.

   4.  Be inspired yourself. Look for people, ideas, environments and knowledge that you find inspiring and motivating.

   5.  Share from your own experience. You have more to share than you realize. Mine the rich experiences of your life and share your wisdom from your unique point of view. You may be the only one who can touch someone with your inspiring message.

   6. Be vulnerable. Be willing to share your failures as well as your successes. Others will relate to you. They’ll understand that they’re not the only ones with challenges.

   7.  Tell stories. Facts tell and stories sell. They inspire, too. We learn best from parables and we all need to develop our own inspiring stories.

   8.  Be a good communicator. Increasing your ability to communicate effectively is a critical element for you to inspire others. Watch how you speak and what you say. Invest In. your communication skills.

   9.  Challenge people. Many of us have had teachers who at times seemed more like tormentors than mentors. They challenged us to do our best, and we were better for it. Practice "care-frontation"—the careful and caring confrontation of others.

  10. Read. It may not follow that all readers are leaders, but certainly all leaders are readers. Stay informed. Share what you read with others. Tell people about books that have inspired you. Share the knowledge. 

Read, Learn and Live...

                                                   The Gentleman

A Gentleman Ponders..."EVERY" Black Male is in Prison.

    Recently in one of my classes my professor stated a common myth - "There are more black males in prison than they are in college". You probably completed the sentence before you finished reading it. But it's rarely noted how misleading this is. l once held that view till a discussion I had with this lady a day before. She made some resounding points and gave some serious schooling. She told us the college age (~17-24) is what is compared to the prison age(~15-80) so of course, why wouldn't there be "MORE" black men in prison. However, my professor made a good point, she asked the black men to identify by raising their hands and yes, there was a handful of us. Disregarding i attend a primarily Caucasian school.