My facebook Fav quotations.

Winners have simply formed the habit of doing things losers don't like to do.

Become a Man of Value rather than a man of success.

Stay financially responsible.

"Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they've been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It's an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It's a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary... Impossible is nothing."

"Be who you are and live  because those who mind don't matter and those who matter dont mind!"

I'm born an original, NEVER dying a copy.

I believe—
        that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
        that everyone, has a right to their opinions BUT that doesn't change the fact of Who I am.
        that the Best way to Live life is to LIVE it like an experience and NOT as a competition.
        that I am more established than most, but that gives me NO RIGHT to be arrogant.
       that friendship and warmth are essential, i neva kno tomorrow.
       that it is NO USE to eat myself over things i have no control; I have control over how i react to things n NOT wat happens to me and THAT i will pay attention to.
  
      that MOST IMPORTANTLY, it is essential that i live for MYSELF and kip it ril 110% regardless. That way i kno i am being the BEST i can b.

Reflections Thursdays: F-E-A-R-S.

So, I just finished watching Welcome Home Roscoe Jenkins. The movie taught and reminded me of some stuff I've already known per say. It reminded me of fears and how we deal with them. Roscoe Jenkins always thought of himself as a loser and so he always tried to compete with Clyde his cousin. One competition they had became a major component in his life - which reminded of something else: Childhood. No matter how much we try to "deceive" ourselves that our childhood has no effect on us IT DOES. Childhood is when we develop most of our traits, "personality" etc. The competition included a wager of whoever wins asks the town's dime to the Spring dance. Well Roscoe won but "slick" Clyde asked her out either-ways. Long story short Roscoe went about trying to "transform" himself into what he thought of as a winner - some Tv show host with money. The odd side is no matter how we try to transform ourselves with MATERIALISTIC things. The "loser-mentality" we may have of ourselves NEVER transforms ALONGSIDE until we deal with it. SO, Roscoe kept trying to beat Clyde trying to be better than him etc. And it really cost him a lot - even though he didn't see it (as we all will never will): relationship with his son, family and marrying some figure 0 chick probably to satisfy his inner insecurity that he can't get dimes.
And here is what came back to mind after watching that movie (and from my private life) : In dealing with fears and insecurity DO NOT:

• EVER try to deceive yourself that your fears do not exist - u r LYING like a bitch and will never conquer your fears.
• Try to cover/subsitiute your fears for something else. Eg u r scared of approaching dimes so u rather approach 300 ugly broads #FAIL.
• Try to "transform" urself. U r only giving gas to the idea that you are indeed a loser and that u r not good enough as you are UNTIL you CHANGE yourself. 
• Try to cover your fears with materialistic things - they only fuel your fear and make it look bigger than it actually is.

However, DO

• Acknowledge your fears - u dont have to ACCEPT them. Just acknowledge their presence and begin to work from there. 
• Take a step to working on your fears - as much as it hurts to know that we are not perfect, you'll only become stronger when you can look your fears in the face.
• Dare to dream, imagine what it would be like if your fears were not there. Picture it in your mind, feel like you would feel, see like you would see and soon you would transport yourself there. Eg I want to land a certain position: if i do begin to compose myself like someone for that position the likelihood of me getting that position increases (i'll talk more about this in another post).
• Accept that no one is perfect and still make a move to better-ness.
• Love yourself unconditionally.

So in summary:

• Make a move towards working on your fears, eg if a guy scared of approaching females might start by gaining more female friends; get comfortable with being around  females then take another progressive step. 
• Dare to dream - you block your dream when you allow your fears to grow bigger than your faith especially faith in yourself. 

Till next time...

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                                                                 The Gentleman

Atychiphobia - Fear Of Failure

Fear of failure can hold you back. But failure isn’t all that bad really. It can be very helpful if you choose to see it that way.
The thing is to reframe failure from being something that makes your legs shake to something useful and important for the growth of your self confidence and your overall growth as a human being.

Here are four ways that failure can help you out:

• You learn. Instead of seeing failure as something horrible you can start to view it more as a learning experience. When standing in the middle of a failure, you can ask yourself questions like: What’s awesome about this situation? What can I learn from this situation?
• You gain experiences you could not get any other way. Ideally, you probably want to learn from other people’s mistakes and failures. That’s not always easy to do though. Sometimes you just have to fail on your own to learn a lesson and to gain an experience no one can relate to you in mere words.
• You become stronger. Every time you fail you become more accustomed to it. You realize more and more that it’s not the end of the world. And, again, you get desensitized. You can handle things that would have been very hard to handle a few years back.
• Your chances of succeeding increases. Every time you fail you can learn and increase your inner strength. So over time you become more and more likely to succeed.

The Gentleman's 10 Tips to life..

  1.     Be a good example. People watch what you do more than they listen to what you say. Be someone worth emulating.

   2.   Care about others. People don’t care about how much you know until they know how much you care. Ask questions. Take a genuine interest In. people.

   3.    Encouragement. Everyone goes through tough times. When you support people and encourage them through these times, you’ll be inspiring them to see the best in themselves & in the situation.

   4.  Be inspired yourself. Look for people, ideas, environments and knowledge that you find inspiring and motivating.

   5.  Share from your own experience. You have more to share than you realize. Mine the rich experiences of your life and share your wisdom from your unique point of view. You may be the only one who can touch someone with your inspiring message.

   6. Be vulnerable. Be willing to share your failures as well as your successes. Others will relate to you. They’ll understand that they’re not the only ones with challenges.

   7.  Tell stories. Facts tell and stories sell. They inspire, too. We learn best from parables and we all need to develop our own inspiring stories.

   8.  Be a good communicator. Increasing your ability to communicate effectively is a critical element for you to inspire others. Watch how you speak and what you say. Invest In. your communication skills.

   9.  Challenge people. Many of us have had teachers who at times seemed more like tormentors than mentors. They challenged us to do our best, and we were better for it. Practice "care-frontation"—the careful and caring confrontation of others.

  10. Read. It may not follow that all readers are leaders, but certainly all leaders are readers. Stay informed. Share what you read with others. Tell people about books that have inspired you. Share the knowledge. 

Read, Learn and Live...

                                                   The Gentleman

I am Worth...

lol..it's so funny how we wait for the Physical to prove to us that we are who we are. We really don't need people to tell us who we are or wat we r made of. The fact that that Girl doesn't smile at u when u walk past doesn't mean she's not krazi over u - u'll b surprised to hear what she thinks of u (even in private *hint*).
The best thing is to look into the Mirror and know who u see, From inside out tell urself of ur worth, ur standards and what u stand for, and whether some foo notices or not - u still the bomb. U don't have to be the bomb for anyone else jus shine for u - jus cuz.
Evaluate yourself - are you better than yesterday according to your standards and what YOU think is important? Yes.Good job, keep doing what you doing. No. Turn the fuck around and get to YOUR goals and vision.

Till you can look in the mirror and see YOU and not someone/some-people's SELF in the mirror, you are not growing far.

Till next time,
Kip Reading....

                                                                  The Gentleman.

Cute Inspiration.

She's an upcoming model; body, looks and all BUT she has only ONE ARM.

 

 

A major inspiration and a cutie all at once..SEXY

Shit..that was near PERFECT!

A strength for SPECIFIC purposes: is a consistent near-perfect performance in an activity. 
For an activity to be a strenght:

• Do it CONSISTENTLY and must be able to derive some INTRINSIC SATISFACTION eg Bill Gates is quite capable of implementing Microsoft's strategy but because he said performing this role drains him of energy, this ability is NOT his strength. 
• ACID TEST: Can i fanthom myself doing it repeatedly, happily and sucessfully? 
• I DO NOT have to have strength in EVERY ASPECT of my role in order to excel. I.e Have all the "qualities" required for the role. All that is needed is - to know hwo to play  n use your cards with what i have. 
• EXCELLENCE NEVER comes by FIXING WEAKNESSES it is only by MAXIMIZING STRENGTHS POINT OF NOTE: It doesn't mean IGNORE WEAKNESSES....manage around weaknesses to free me up to hone my strenghts to a sharper point. Eg if a weakness is impatience with kids, and i work as a School Administrator BUT a strenght of mine is managing educational records etc. I can switch jobs towork in the Ministry of Education, where i can hone my Educational record organizing strenght and not allowing my impatience with kids interfere with my growth. I DID NOT ignore my weaknesses as i WAS VERY WELL AWARE of them AND ACKNOWLEDGED them, THAT IS WHY I MOVED In the 1st place....IGNORING my weakness would be to "play dumb" and just wallow in my job as a  School Administrator and keep trying to "control" myself from being impatient with the kids etc...ALL THE WHILE ignoring my Educational record organizing skill....when i am lagging in my strenght, my supervisors would see my "weakness"  (as I am paying attention to it,and there is the temptation of me to go about whing about how i am impatient with kids etc...looking for the why and how i became such and such....probably attending seminars, lectures on the impatience and trying to "fix" my impatience)....this is time spent and WILL never be regained. I could have focused my time (attended lectures etc ON my Strenght) 
• In English Language: CAPITALIZE ON MY STRENGHTS & MANAGE AROUND MY WEAKNESSES

I am the greatest, I said that even before I knew I was.

I am NOT a victim of circumstance, I am the Master of my fate - a beneficiary of possibility. Difficult conditions do not impose a burden. They deliver opportunity, in great abundance.

No matter what happens or what fails to happen, there is always a kernel of goodness and positive possibility to be found. Decide to see it, decide to harness it, decide to make the most of it, and you will.

Circumstances, as powerful and disruptive as they may be, do not have any driving purpose or intention. You, on the other hand, do.

When you connect with that purpose, and energize that intention, you can bring great triumph out of any situation. With a strong and clearly defined purpose, everything becomes an opportunity.See what is, and translate it into the best of what can be. Any time is right, when you are ready.