Reflection Thursdays: Enjoy today's good tidings, yesterday's gone.

Stop looking for yesterdays past glory, happiness and joy. Believe that today and for the days to come more joy awaits you. Think back before your last success, you had no idea it was coming and something else was the "it" of your life. The one big thing you'd done. That's how successes are; they come - intended to fill you with good feelings about yourself and your accomplishment and to fulfill a certain goal you may have had. Once they're done - you get done with them. Fine, there are some achievements that mean more to us than others. Those we hang them on our mental wall of fame. Don't meditate on your past laureates till you can't feel the juice anymore. You've sucked the success nectar, move on and don't stay trying to force / remind yourself of the good feelings your success brought you. I didn't say thrash every good thing that comes your way. Just live, enjoy, and move on. When you keep saving up past successes, happiness, joys and glories you never allow yourself room to gain more happiness. Instead of hanging on to past successes, treat them as memorabilia. Let them remain in your wall of fame to remind you how much of a champ you are. Your success serve to let you remember never to give up or back down. They are a way of saying you did it before and you can always do better. They should be your inspiration not your culmination. Your life is a continuous cycle of successes, happiness and joy. Never cut yourself short by latching on to how good something/someone was. It was good, nice. But there will be more good things in your life. Today, start learning how to permit yourself to not enslave yourself to your successes. They are supposed to be joyful and bring happiness and not cause you to remain stagnant in your growth. Think of your life as a pre-destined success and enjoy the good things come your way.

Reflection Thursdays: Building your reality through your imagination and vision

One way to "build" your reality is to IMAGINE  it vividly. Einstein said that "Imagination is more important than knowledge" some marketing guy named Roy Williams says that our minds are  far better suited to imagination than reality ANYWAY.

If you could have your life be any way you  want, how would that be?  What would happen in your reality?

We as humans can live almost any life we want if only we decide what that life is going to be, and put our full attention on making that our reality. Use your IMAGINATION to create a reality that you WANT to live in, and then start living there. No one is going to call you up and say "Hey, I am granting you permission to live the life you want... so get to it."    You're going to have to CREATE the reality that you want to live in... and then start living there.

Reflections Thursdays: F-E-A-R-S.

So, I just finished watching Welcome Home Roscoe Jenkins. The movie taught and reminded me of some stuff I've already known per say. It reminded me of fears and how we deal with them. Roscoe Jenkins always thought of himself as a loser and so he always tried to compete with Clyde his cousin. One competition they had became a major component in his life - which reminded of something else: Childhood. No matter how much we try to "deceive" ourselves that our childhood has no effect on us IT DOES. Childhood is when we develop most of our traits, "personality" etc. The competition included a wager of whoever wins asks the town's dime to the Spring dance. Well Roscoe won but "slick" Clyde asked her out either-ways. Long story short Roscoe went about trying to "transform" himself into what he thought of as a winner - some Tv show host with money. The odd side is no matter how we try to transform ourselves with MATERIALISTIC things. The "loser-mentality" we may have of ourselves NEVER transforms ALONGSIDE until we deal with it. SO, Roscoe kept trying to beat Clyde trying to be better than him etc. And it really cost him a lot - even though he didn't see it (as we all will never will): relationship with his son, family and marrying some figure 0 chick probably to satisfy his inner insecurity that he can't get dimes.
And here is what came back to mind after watching that movie (and from my private life) : In dealing with fears and insecurity DO NOT:

• EVER try to deceive yourself that your fears do not exist - u r LYING like a bitch and will never conquer your fears.
• Try to cover/subsitiute your fears for something else. Eg u r scared of approaching dimes so u rather approach 300 ugly broads #FAIL.
• Try to "transform" urself. U r only giving gas to the idea that you are indeed a loser and that u r not good enough as you are UNTIL you CHANGE yourself. 
• Try to cover your fears with materialistic things - they only fuel your fear and make it look bigger than it actually is.

However, DO

• Acknowledge your fears - u dont have to ACCEPT them. Just acknowledge their presence and begin to work from there. 
• Take a step to working on your fears - as much as it hurts to know that we are not perfect, you'll only become stronger when you can look your fears in the face.
• Dare to dream, imagine what it would be like if your fears were not there. Picture it in your mind, feel like you would feel, see like you would see and soon you would transport yourself there. Eg I want to land a certain position: if i do begin to compose myself like someone for that position the likelihood of me getting that position increases (i'll talk more about this in another post).
• Accept that no one is perfect and still make a move to better-ness.
• Love yourself unconditionally.

So in summary:

• Make a move towards working on your fears, eg if a guy scared of approaching females might start by gaining more female friends; get comfortable with being around  females then take another progressive step. 
• Dare to dream - you block your dream when you allow your fears to grow bigger than your faith especially faith in yourself. 

Till next time...

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                                                                 The Gentleman